Social Role Traditions....still around?

Throughout the last two decades, I have noticed a dramatic schism in the citizens of this country and many others over the traditional roles of society. There is a greater push to abolish the traditional concepts and to promote greater equality, with conditions of course. I do not believe in conditions, it should be total equality or none at all. Narrowing down the focus to the United States...actually, lets focus on just North Carolina. The "traditionalists" use religion texts as their bases as well as grasping to the old school thinking that men have this set of roles and jobs while women have theirs.  If they believe that then fine, leave them be, and they in return should not press upon us their structured ideas and demand that we curtail our way of living to abide into their philosophy. There are the "progressivenist" who have accepted the switch of roles, or I should say, integration of roles within the gender roles. These persons are typically persecuted behind their backs by traditionalists, and yes, I did say persecuted. Don't believe me, sit in a church on a couple of Sundays and you will here them preach tolerance and at the same time intolerance of those that do not follow the roles that are claimed to have been preordained. I see more women out there working and striving for the exact same goals that men were suppose to strive for. Ironically, there are many more men becoming home makers and taking on the roles of running the house and maintaining things while the wife is at work. This role today has actually surfaced more than 2000 years ago, but the typical masculine viewpoint of history has attempted to suppress the evidence or try to write it off as a statistical anomaly. So this leads us to the ever present questions, who determines the social roles and which do we follow? There is great hypocrisy amongst those that still deem what is a man's role versus a woman's role. This is because it resorts to what is convenient at that time and then this allows them to push the expectations upon the other sex to fulfil that role or be looked upon as less of a person. Yet, these same hypocrits demand equality. I believe that if you are going to be a hypocrit, then you should not be seen as equal to those of us that take on both roles. Also, if you are not willing to take on the demands or needs, then why expect those of others around you. Of course this could lead to further degradation of society as a whole, but it is about time to evaluate our present state of mind and ideas and either move ahead or be forever stagnant like a cesspool. Society has shown constant failure after failure that the traditional roles do not work any longer. It also has created greater hypocrisy amongst those that claim to want equality but refuse to share the burden of those of us that promote equality. Welcome to the land of the easily offended and whining. What do you propose?